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What Is Imposter Syndrome?

Updated: Oct 21

Imposter syndrome is loosely defined as doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud. It disproportionately affects high-achieving people, who find it difficult to accept their accomplishments. Many question whether they're deserving of accolades.

Impostor syndrome (IS) refers to an internal experience of believing that you are not as competent as others perceive you to be. While this definition is usually narrowly applied to intelligence and achievement, it has links to perfectionism and the social context.


To put it simply, imposter syndrome is the experience of feeling like a phoney — you feel as though at any moment you are going to be found out as a fraud — like you don't belong where you are, and you only got there through dumb luck. It can affect anyone no matter their social status, work background, skill level, or degree of expertise.


The term was first used by psychologists Suzanna Imes and Pauline Rose Clance in the 1970s. When the concept of IS was introduced, it was originally thought to apply mostly to high-achieving women. Since then, it has been recognised as more widely experienced.


This article discusses the signs of imposter syndrome and some of the risk factors for developing it. It also covers different forms of imposter syndrome and ways that you can cope with these feelings.


Characteristics of Imposter Syndrome


Some of the common signs of imposter syndrome include:

  • An inability to realistically assess your competence and skills

  • Attributing your success to external factors

  • Berating your performance

  • Fear that you won't live up to expectations

  • Overachieving

  • Sabotaging your own success

  • Self-doubt

  • Setting very challenging goals and feeling disappointed when you fall short

While for some people, impostor syndrome can fuel feelings of motivation to achieve, this usually comes at a cost in the form of constant anxiety. You might over-prepare or work much harder than necessary to make sure that nobody finds out you are a fraud.


This sets up a vicious cycle, in which you think that the only reason you survived that work presentation was that you stayed up all night rehearsing. Or, you think the only reason you got through that party or family gathering was that you memorised details about all the guests so that you would always have ideas for small talk.


The problem with impostor syndrome is that the experience of doing well at something does nothing to change your beliefs. Even though you might sail through a performance or have lunch with co-workers, the thought still nags in your head, "What gives me the right to be here?" The more you accomplish, the more you just feel like a fraud. It's as though you can't internalise your experiences of success.


This makes sense in terms of social anxiety if you received early feedback that you were not good at social or performance situations. Your core beliefs about yourself are so strong, that they don't change, even when there is evidence to the contrary.


The thought process is that if you do well, it must be the result of luck because a socially incompetent person just doesn't belong.


Eventually, these feelings worsen anxiety and may lead to depression. People who experience impostor syndrome also tend not to talk about how they are feeling with anyone and struggle in silence, just as do those with social anxiety disorder.


Identifying Imposter Syndrome


While impostor syndrome is not a recognised disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), it is not uncommon. It is estimated that 70% of people will experience at least one episode of this phenomenon in their lives.


If you think you might have imposter syndrome, ask yourself the following questions:

  • Do you agonise over even the smallest mistakes or flaws in your work?

  • Do you attribute your success to luck or outside factors?

  • Are you sensitive to even constructive criticism?

  • Do you feel like you will inevitably be found out as a phony?

  • Do you downplay your own expertise, even in areas where you are genuinely more skilled than others?

If you often find yourself feeling like you are a fraud or an imposter, it may be helpful to talk to a therapist. The negative thinking, self-doubt, and self-sabotage that often characterise imposter syndrome can have an effect on many areas of your life.


Causes of Imposter Syndrome


We know that certain factors can contribute to the more general experience of impostor syndrome. In the earliest studies on the phenomenon, researchers found that imposter syndrome was connected to factors including early family dynamics and gender stereotypes. Subsequent research has shown, however, that the phenomenon occurs in people of all backgrounds, ages, and genders.


Family Upbringing


Research suggests that upbringing and family dynamics can play an important role. Parenting styles characterised by being controlling or overprotective may contribute to the development of imposter syndrome in children.


For example, you might have come from a family that highly valued achievement or had parents who flipped back and forth between offering praise and being critical.


Studies suggest that people who come from families characterised by high levels of conflict with low amounts of support may be more likely to experience imposter syndrome.


We also know that entering a new role can trigger impostor syndrome. For example, starting college or university might leave you feeling as though you don't belong and are not capable.


It appears that imposter syndrome is often the most common when people are going through transitions and trying new things. The pressure to achieve and succeed combined with lack of experience can trigger feelings of inadequacy in these new roles and settings.


Personality


Certain personality traits have also been linked to a higher risk of experiencing imposter syndrome. Some traits or characteristics that might play a role include:

  • Low self-efficacy: Self-efficacy refers to your belief in your ability to succeed in any given situation.

  • Perfectionism: Perfectionism plays a significant role in impostor syndrome. You might think that there is some perfect "script" for conversations and that you cannot say the wrong thing. You probably have trouble asking for help from others and may procrastinate due to your own high standards.

  • Neuroticism: Neuroticism is one of the big five personality dimensions that is linked to higher levels of anxiety, insecurity, tension, and guilt.

Social Anxiety


Impostor syndrome and social anxiety may overlap. A person with social anxiety disorder (SAD) may feel as though they don't belong in social or performance situations.


You might be in a conversation with someone and feel as though they are going to discover your social incompetence. You might be delivering a presentation and feel as though you just need to get through it before anyone realises you really don't belong there.


While the symptoms of social anxiety can fuel feelings of imposter syndrome, this does not mean that everyone who experiences imposter syndrome has social anxiety or vice versa. People without social anxiety can also feel a lack of confidence and competence. Imposter syndrome often causes normally non-anxious people to experience a sense of anxiety when they are in situations where they feel inadequate.


Recap


There are many factors that may play a part in imposter syndrome including new roles, family upbringing, personality traits, and social anxiety.


Types of Imposter Syndrome


Imposter syndrome can appear in a number of different ways. A few different types of imposter syndrome may include:

  • The perfectionist: Perfectionists are never satisfied and always feel that their work could be better. Rather than focus on their strengths, they tend to fixate on any flaws or mistakes. This often leads to a great deal of self-pressure and high amounts of anxiety.

  • The superhero: Because these individuals feel inadequate, they feel compelled to push themselves to work as hard as possible.

  • The expert: These individuals are always trying to learn more and are never satisfied with their level of understanding. Even though they are often highly skilled, they underrate their own expertise.

  • The natural genius: These individuals set excessively lofty goals for themselves, and then feel crushed when they don't succeed on their first try.

  • The soloist: These people tend to be very individualistic and prefer to work alone. Self-worth often stems from their productivity, so they often reject offers of assistance. They tend to see asking for help as a sign of weakness or incompetence.

Coping With Imposter Syndrome


To get past impostor syndrome, you need to start asking yourself some hard questions. They might include things such as the following:

  • What core beliefs do I hold about myself?

  • Do I believe I am worthy of love as I am?

  • Must I be perfect for others to approve of me?

To move past these feelings, you need to become comfortable confronting some of those deeply ingrained beliefs you hold about yourself. This exercise can be hard because you might not even realise that you hold them, but here are some techniques you can use:

  • Share your feelings: Talk to other people about how you are feeling. Irrational beliefs tend to fester when they are hidden and not talked about.

  • Focus on others: While this might feel counterintuitive, try to help others in the same situation as you. If you see someone who seems awkward or alone, ask that person a question to bring them into the group. As you practice your skills, you will build confidence in your own abilities.

  • Assess your abilities: If you have long-held beliefs about your incompetence in social and performance situations, make a realistic assessment of your abilities. Write down your accomplishments and what you are good at, and compare that with your self-assessment.

  • Take baby steps: Don’t focus on doing things perfectly, but rather, do things reasonably well and reward yourself for taking action. For example, in a group conversation, offer an opinion or share a story about yourself.

  • Question your thoughts: As you start to assess your abilities and take baby steps, question whether your thoughts are rational. Does it make sense to believe that you are a fraud, given everything that you know?

  • Stop comparing: Every time you compare yourself to others in a social situation, you will find some fault with yourself that fuels the feeling of not being good enough or not belonging. Instead, during conversations, focus on listening to what the other person is saying. Be genuinely interested in learning more.

  • Use social media moderately: We know that the overuse of social media may be related to feelings of inferiority. If you try to portray an image on social media that doesn’t match who you really are or that is impossible to achieve, it will only make your feelings of being a fraud worse.

  • Stop fighting your feelings: Don’t fight the feelings of not belonging. Instead, try to lean into them and accept them. It’s only when you acknowledge them that you can start to unravel those core beliefs that are holding you back.

  • Refuse to let it hold you back: No matter how much you feel like you don’t belong, don’t let that stop you from pursuing your goals. Keep going and refuse to be stopped.

Recap


Strategies to cope with imposter feelings include talking about what you are experiencing, questioning your negative thoughts, and avoiding comparing yourself to others.



Adapted from an article by Arlin Cuncic in Very Well Mind on May 23, 2022

https://www.verywellmind.com/imposter-syndrome-and-social-anxiety-disorder-4156469




 

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